Demand! Not want.
want = try to quit
It's either cigarettes or me - VOTE for ME!
TWO OPTIONS: QUITTING SMOKING OR GETTING SICK AND DYING
Go for it! Commit my body, mind, and soul!
RISE UP - meet the challenge - don't make a big deal - it's just a moment where you want something you can't have
A couple days, and I'll be fine.
Pretty soon I'll feel better and it's worth it because I'm saving my life here!
Attitude is "I'm never smoking again!" because I don't want to get sick and die from these stupid things.
ENOUGH, NO MORE, NEVER AGAIN
gain power from knowing next constriction could could heart failure or begin lung cancer/emphysema
The addict is a direct threat to my life. FEEL THE THREAT
#1 OH MY GOD - NO WAY - lung cancer - heart disease - emphysema - OH MY GOD - I don't wanna get sick - OH MY GOD - half a million people in America died last year from smoking - OH MY GOD - One more cigarette and I COULD END UP IN THE HOSPITAL!
Be convincing and the addict won't come back tomorrow!
I AM TERRIFIED that if I continue smoking - I will get sick and die at any moment!
I made up my mind - it's a done deal - and not open for discussion. PERIOD.
Role playing with addict: "Hey - had a few fun times smoking with you but I AM TERRIFIED and I'M NEVER SMOKING AGAIN!
FOCUS
I've quit smoking. I'm never smoking again and nothing will ever change my mind.
STAY ON MY SPOT - DO NOT get knocked off.
It's no longer about day-to-day life anymore - it is about cigarettes. If they are deadly on Tuesday, they are still deadly on Wednesday, regardless of the drama I am going through on any particular day.
Cigarettes are "the" serial killer and I must break up and never reconcile because they will ALWAYS BE A SERIAL KILLER - still deadly when you are having a bad day and almost give consideration AND THEY NEVER GIVE A DAMN ABOUT ME
CLARITY
A child running into the street = me smoking
don't need proof to take action re: child
never would say maybe he'll be okay
no proof or certainty that harm will come
should be EQUALLY HORRIFIED of the prospect of death
Tomorrow morning God appears "Hey! I've checked out your lungs. They're shot. If you have the next cigarette you are going to collapse. You won't die but you'll be rushed to the hospital. You will have trouble breathing. They will revive you. And then for the next 5 and a half years you will suffer in ways you cannot even imagine. You will be hospitalized fifteen times. You will be operated on five times, and at the end of five and a half years you will suffocate and die.
But if you don't have the cigarette, you'll be fine."
===> Be focused, alert, and on the ball.
===> Respond INSTANTLY to the addict
===> If you hesitate, at all, you will give him hope.
===> The balance of power immediately changes if he gets any hope
===> DO NOT GIVE THE THREE YEAR OLD THE GUN!!!!!
#2 MANTRA: It's not an option. It's not an option.
NEVER enter the debate (addict's main tool)
#3 No consideration, no debate
I don't smoke anymore. Don't be jealous of others. They are sick and dying. Buy a NO FEAR shirt because the real power is changing from within.
DO NOT AVOID anything - it will give the addict hope.
You will have memories of cigarettes. You will never have a moment of consideration.
You cannot separate the pleasure from the consequence.
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
This is my story, and I am sticking to it!
It all started, like a million years ago, when I first started smoking. And it ended July 13, 2014, around 9pm EDT. Don't recall much about that last smoke, other than the fact that I sure didn't realize it was my last smoke at the time. I remember being scared to stand by the back door because the light was out and it was pitch black and a huge pinching-type beetle was flailing around upside down on the stairs so I covered him up with a bucket filled with rocks...crunch...and then I sat on the far side of the patio with my butt resting on the edge of the chair. The only other memory that comes to mind is the flying gnat bugs that were attacking my phone screen, when it was lit up.
That's it. Then I came in - got the children into bed, and asleep, and then I watched The Method - DVD number 2. It was wonderful. Kerry gave me a mantra, and reminded me it was time to demand to be smoke free. With all the passion I had given to that addict living inside me - I turned it around full circle - and evicted him. I wasn't rude, I was just done with it, and refusing to let one more drag of any cigarette be the one that puts me in the hospital and/or kills me. Bizarre - Kerry uses that word so kindly - I would choose more colorful words to tell the smokers of the world to wake the *bleep* up.
The Kerry Gaynor Method is phenomenal, magical, superb, outstanding, wonderful, freeing, life-changing, inexpensive, a miracle. A miracle - yes - a true miracle. I quit smoking before - had crazy, borderline psychotic reactions EVERY SINGLE ATTEMPT. I would just sit at the table and cry. I would stay in the bed the next morning, not knowing what to do first, not knowing if I even wanted to go on living if I couldn't smoke. "OH MY GOD!" Kerry says you have to have the Oh my God moment when the addict suggests the cigarette. I think my moment came before I even found Kerry in that I was scared to try and quit again just because of the emotional toll I placed on my self each time. My experiences from the past couple years are here in this blog.
Truth? At 41 hours smoke free, I...
...am a little tired - nothing I cannot handle, but could sure use a nap (non-depressional, I might add) this afternoon, but honestly I wish I had some bananas. Perhaps I'll just go get some gum and have myself a little unhealthy sugar rush this afternoon.
....have to remind myself to unshrug my shoulders quite a few times a day.
....am a little quick to fuss at the husband and children SOMETIMES, but not all the time, and actually not much of the time.
...am not afraid to leave the house, or go outside, but I am trying to be mindful of what I eat.
This quit is a miracle, and I thank God for bringing Kerry into my life. My husband and daughters don't even know or realize that I have quit. (That, my friends, is divine intervention. There could be no other explanation.) And I ain't telling them. =) I will just wait until it gets mentioned by someone and then share my stats at that time. I'm not obsessing over them so I really have to look it up, every time I want to know for myself. I didn't mention my son above because he saw my app and asked about it. I explained what it was and how long it had been since I stopped smoking. He gave me a high five. As for the rest of them, I can't really blame them for not asking. Here I am acting perfectly normal. Mir. A. Cle. I'm telling you! And since for the past year I have been smoking my 8 or 9 cigs a day hidden in the back yard in the corner next to the fireplace so that no one can look out of the house and see me, there's no telling how long this could go on. My husband will probably realize it first - especially when we take our next trip to NJ and I never ask him to stop so I can smoke. I am so excited to be able to stay in hotel rooms without sneaking out for a smoke. I am also so excited to plan a Halloween Party with the girls and not have to stress over how will a take a break and grab a cig in the middle of the party. Regular everyday life has been preparing me for this final quit for most of the past year. I had quit smoking in the car. I could watch an entire movie without sneaking out halfway through. I could cook dinner, sit down to eat it, and clean up most of it before running off to my little corner in the yard to stink myself up. My poor children - having to put up with that smell all these years.
I do have somewhat random thoughts right now, but like Kerry told me to say, I am a little under the weather, but pretty soon I'll feel better and it's worth it - because I am saving my life here.
That's it. Then I came in - got the children into bed, and asleep, and then I watched The Method - DVD number 2. It was wonderful. Kerry gave me a mantra, and reminded me it was time to demand to be smoke free. With all the passion I had given to that addict living inside me - I turned it around full circle - and evicted him. I wasn't rude, I was just done with it, and refusing to let one more drag of any cigarette be the one that puts me in the hospital and/or kills me. Bizarre - Kerry uses that word so kindly - I would choose more colorful words to tell the smokers of the world to wake the *bleep* up.
The Kerry Gaynor Method is phenomenal, magical, superb, outstanding, wonderful, freeing, life-changing, inexpensive, a miracle. A miracle - yes - a true miracle. I quit smoking before - had crazy, borderline psychotic reactions EVERY SINGLE ATTEMPT. I would just sit at the table and cry. I would stay in the bed the next morning, not knowing what to do first, not knowing if I even wanted to go on living if I couldn't smoke. "OH MY GOD!" Kerry says you have to have the Oh my God moment when the addict suggests the cigarette. I think my moment came before I even found Kerry in that I was scared to try and quit again just because of the emotional toll I placed on my self each time. My experiences from the past couple years are here in this blog.
Truth? At 41 hours smoke free, I...
...am a little tired - nothing I cannot handle, but could sure use a nap (non-depressional, I might add) this afternoon, but honestly I wish I had some bananas. Perhaps I'll just go get some gum and have myself a little unhealthy sugar rush this afternoon.
....have to remind myself to unshrug my shoulders quite a few times a day.
....am a little quick to fuss at the husband and children SOMETIMES, but not all the time, and actually not much of the time.
...am not afraid to leave the house, or go outside, but I am trying to be mindful of what I eat.
This quit is a miracle, and I thank God for bringing Kerry into my life. My husband and daughters don't even know or realize that I have quit. (That, my friends, is divine intervention. There could be no other explanation.) And I ain't telling them. =) I will just wait until it gets mentioned by someone and then share my stats at that time. I'm not obsessing over them so I really have to look it up, every time I want to know for myself. I didn't mention my son above because he saw my app and asked about it. I explained what it was and how long it had been since I stopped smoking. He gave me a high five. As for the rest of them, I can't really blame them for not asking. Here I am acting perfectly normal. Mir. A. Cle. I'm telling you! And since for the past year I have been smoking my 8 or 9 cigs a day hidden in the back yard in the corner next to the fireplace so that no one can look out of the house and see me, there's no telling how long this could go on. My husband will probably realize it first - especially when we take our next trip to NJ and I never ask him to stop so I can smoke. I am so excited to be able to stay in hotel rooms without sneaking out for a smoke. I am also so excited to plan a Halloween Party with the girls and not have to stress over how will a take a break and grab a cig in the middle of the party. Regular everyday life has been preparing me for this final quit for most of the past year. I had quit smoking in the car. I could watch an entire movie without sneaking out halfway through. I could cook dinner, sit down to eat it, and clean up most of it before running off to my little corner in the yard to stink myself up. My poor children - having to put up with that smell all these years.
I do have somewhat random thoughts right now, but like Kerry told me to say, I am a little under the weather, but pretty soon I'll feel better and it's worth it - because I am saving my life here.
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